Do You Love Yourself?

Posted Apr 21, 2022 at 16:25

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A common saying these days we hear a lot of is  ‘Living my best life’

But what does this even mean?

I'm still trying to figure this one out. If this is you, I'm not sure you know either. However, I think I can help you gain some clarity on what exactly it means to love yourself and make decisions that serve you best.

The most important thing for us to consider is which "self" we are trying to please? 

              Your past self ?     Your current self ?      Your future self ?


Who are your actions serving best?

This can be a touchy topic with some and requires psychological maturity and a well-developed character. The current self is always going to try to dominate the others, which is why your decisions in life require your rational cognitive facilities, rather than simple pleasure-seeking. 

-”The ability to discipline yourself to delay gratification in the short term in order to achieve greater rewards in the long term is the indispensable prerequisite for success”- Brian Tracy

When I talk to my clients and the people closest to me about acting in a way that honours the love they express toward themselves, I try my best to consider how this might impact them in the future. The future self is you, and everything you say yes or no to NOW will impact that future self. 


Here's another way to look at  "I'm living my best life". You can skip out on education and work a short-term job abroad in the sun if you want, and that will probably bring you great joy right now. You could also put your head down, study hard and push through difficult obstacles now, but that will probably bring you many miserable days.


Long term, the latter case brings education, knowledge, stability, options, and hopefully more freedom. The former case often brings the opposite long term. 




“Discipline = Freedom”- Jocko Willink


For these reasons, I try not to worry about whether I am having "fun" or "no fun" in my day-to-day life, which does sound a bit miserable the more I think about it but deep down i know my why and I am more concerned with whether or not what I am doing has purpose/meaning now, and if it is a vote for my future self. The reflection of both the now + future is informed by my past self. 


Is this the right reflection for you? I don't know. That's not my call. But, this is my thoughts on the topic and maybe there is something useful in there for you.


Before I go, why not get yourself booked in for a free discovery visit with Team Peak, trust me , your future self will thank you , get in touch !